Familiarity is the silent assassin of greatness, it does not shout, it only slowly blinds you to the value of what you once celebrated.
DIVORCE YOURSELF FROM FAMILIARITY
One of the most dangerous killers of success is familiarity.
As a spiritual and professional counselor, I have discovered that many marriages collapse not because of poverty or infidelity, but because of familiarity. Spouses lose respect for each other once they have seen each other’s weaknesses and nakedness. What once was treasured becomes taken for granted.
Some men think marrying a woman ten years younger guarantees respect, only to realize that familiarity cancels age and erases limitations.
I have been part of at least three major systems that shaped my spiritual walk with God and ministry. Through these systems, I encountered mentors, exposures, and experiences that refined me. Today, by the grace of God, I have done far beyond those platforms in my own little way. Yet one thing I have never allowed is the spirit of familiarity. Even when I was under those leaders, and even now, I treat grace, systems, and people with fresh honor.
THE TRAP OF FAMILIARITY
You know you are falling into familiarity when:
- You come late to church, your workplace, or appointments without remorse.
- You refuse or delay in carrying out instructions given to you.
- You speak carelessly to authority figures as though they were your mates.
- You stop seeing value in people or systems that once inspired you.
- You mock or downplay the grace, anointing, or opportunities around you.
- You take kindness for granted and assume it will always be there.
- You compare your helpers to others, forgetting the unique role they play in your life.
Familiarity is a slow poison. It makes you casual with what should be sacred, and once honor is lost, favor begins to dry up.
Vashti in the Bible lost her throne because of familiarity. She thought: “After all, I can apologize later…after all, I have my own money too.” She underestimated her husband’s authority, and in one night, her season closed.
Scripture records:
Esther 1:16 (MSG):
“Memucan spoke up in the council of the king and princes: ‘It’s not only the king Queen Vashti has insulted, it’s all of us, leaders and people alike in every last one of King Xerxes’ provinces. The word’s going to get out: Did you hear the latest about Queen Vashti? King Xerxes ordered her to be brought before him and she wouldn’t do it! When the women hear it, they’ll start treating their husbands with contempt. The day the wives of the Persian and Mede officials get wind of the queen’s insolence, they’ll be out of control. Is that what we want? A country of angry women who don’t know their place.’”
She didn’t just lose her season; she caused other women pain.
Even in life today:
- How many employees lose their jobs because they treat their boss casually?
- How many church members lose impartation because they now treat their pastor as an ordinary man?
Familiarity moves from being an attitude to becoming a spirit when:
- People start mocking what once blessed them.
- They despise advice from those they once admired.
- They trivialize divine opportunities with arrogance.
At that point, it is not just carelessness; it is possession.
“Familiarity is the silent assassin of greatness, it does not shout, it only slowly blinds you to the value of what you once celebrated.”
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